Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about having another child. To be honest these are both scary and exciting thoughts. A lot has changed since I became a Parent. My life has literally completed changed. So yes, they were right…having kids really does change your life. No worries though, these are all good changes!
It has been a roller coaster ride; one that I wouldn’t change for anything. A lot happened and a ton of learning and growing up also occurred along the way. I have honestly enjoyed every moment of my Parenting journey but most importantly these are the top 3 important lessons I’ve learned in my 3 years of parenting.
- It’s okay to have a messy house – Before my lil girl was born, my house was literally neat all day everyday. I barely had anything on the floor. Barely had anything written on my walls, and definitely had any mess. This was all me. It has been me since…well forever! I have now learned to appreciate a messy house….still drives me a ted bit crazy though but I try. I have learned to like having my house look messy. Not because there’s a ton of dirty dishes but because there’s play dough, and toy cupcakes everywhere. This to me tells me that my lil one is learning. She’s playing and actually just being a kid. I am now at the point where if my house isn’t messy, I get worried. 🙂
- Compassion, patience, and understanding – Yes, I used to be one of those people that would look at kids in the mall and think *Oh no, he/she didn’t*. I had very little compassion and understanding for the parents of those kids. To me, it seemed like the kids were out of control. Little did I know that, that is actually kids just being adorably kids. And boy, oh boy, Karma is getting the best of me! My daughter in public places always bring out her worst or maybe best depending on how you look at it. I am now that Parent with an out of control lil one. *sigh*…
- Getting angry and holding grudges only gets one exhausted – Too many times i’ve had to call my daughter to order; I’ve had to send her on quiet time; and i’ve had to apply consequence management as part of dealing with her tantrums. About 6 out of 10 times in these situations there’s a lot of tears but 10 out of 10 times, my daughter always comes back bouncy and happier. This I find very very very (add loads of very there) interesting. Children don’t hold grudges. They are all about happiness and fun and I love that. My daughter has taught me to laugh more, relax more, enjoy life more. She has taught me to stop crying over spilled milk (or at least try) and most importantly, she has taught me to just live in the moment.
It has been a long journey and yet so short when i look back on it. I have cried, laughed, got angry, then got back up again and soldiered on. I have watched myself grow into what i’d love to call a *Great Mom in the making* while at the same time watching my daughter grow up into this fun free-spirited little person. I don’t know what else is coming as we continue on this parenting journey but I know for a fact that I am having a ton of fun with it all.
What have you learned from your Parenting journey?
xoxo
yep fully agree, motherhood changes u but for the best
Oh yes, without a doubt. It’s one of those things that no matter how much you mess up, you still really appreciate having done whatever it was you messed up because that how we learn on this parenting journey..xoxo
These are some good tips. So true about getting angry and exhausted. I embrace the mess but I do find that cleaning it up makes me feel better! (I find I am doing that all day looking after toddlers in my job)
I aspire to get to that stage where I feel better cleaning it up. I still complain while cleaning it up but feel much better at the end then I cringe the next day when the mess starts all over again but just go with the flow. I’m still really learning to fully just let the mess be.